tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post1542066119668483318..comments2024-03-14T13:50:41.178-07:00Comments on the polished pickle: i've decided to be french.Megan Mariehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04586723080409475349noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-63958023717442775522012-06-03T22:27:39.053-07:002012-06-03T22:27:39.053-07:00Lucie, I'm so wishing you weren't so anony...Lucie, I'm so wishing you weren't so anonymous because I bet you write the loveliest blog! All week I've been thinking, "I want to go scope out that awesome French girl who lives in Utah!" But now that I've finally gotten a chance, I can't find you! I doubt you'll come back and read this but if you do, I'd like to say thank-you. As I've tried to implement new ideas from that book I've hit several bumps- just like you'd mentioned- namely a slight withdrawal from my children as I've pushed them into a world of their own. A world where I justify my lack of interest in their comings and goings instead of pushing through selfish feelings to be more emotionally available. <br /><br />I'm learning that everything has a cost. And the cost of very absolute and strict lines drawn is a stone-set separation. <br /><br />While the book boasted the success of French mothers, "success" was measured in ways that may not be God's ways. (Does your kid eat their greens? Does your child leave you alone when you're on the phone?) I am left wondering, "Do French children feel close to their parents when they're grown? Do these methods teach true selflessness or just courtesy as a means of obtaining selfish desires?" <br /><br />Anyway, I've had a lot to think about. And I always come back to following my heart- with Heavenly Father at its center.Megan Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04586723080409475349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-62294655201709301892012-05-24T19:48:35.347-07:002012-05-24T19:48:35.347-07:00mmm,well, usually I just read and delight in your ...mmm,well, usually I just read and delight in your words in silence, today I have something to say. Because I m french, and I go there every summer to visit my family. I ve lived in utah for 5 years, took some education classes at BYU, and love to keep reading/discovering what feels right to raise my children. I know this book is raelly popular right now, I ve read diffrent things about it on several blogs, how french mothering is superior. Unfortunately, I have to disagree. I dont know where the author had the great blessing of meeting these mothers in France, I know they are nowhere to be found when I visit for 6 weeks every year. What I see looks more like the things I m trying not to use in mothering. Harsh demeaning comments to the kids, critical tone on everything the kids do, seperating with a great canyon the life of children and the life of adults, not answering their questions...bla blablahhh, I could go on and on. Everything you are quoting seems great to me and I find myself having the same views, I just never felt they came from France. I do feel like you are a dear friend and a kin spirit though, and with so much charm you can claim being french. thank you so much for writing with your heart, it feeds my soul, and need for sisterhood. ( I hope my comment doesnt like I m critical of you!) LucieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-72934787672604389562012-05-24T08:13:01.945-07:002012-05-24T08:13:01.945-07:00From what I can tell, having lurked here for about...From what I can tell, having lurked here for about a year, you are already a "lovely woman and a mom." In your posts, you show grace, wit, beauty, talent, intelligence, devotion and integrity. You are clearly an excellent spouse and mother. Your family is blessed by you, I'm sure. So yes, I think you could definitely pass yourself off as French.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-75505653988251976372012-05-24T07:44:11.552-07:002012-05-24T07:44:11.552-07:00Wow, maybe I have a little french in me! That'...Wow, maybe I have a little french in me! That's basically how I've tried to raise my kids. I have a deep disdain for overly-scheduled families. (Not the families themselves, but the fact that they're so busy). I always just figured I was just weird, but I was okay with that :) It's nice to know I'm not alone in the world. :-)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12351686247392553125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-598291375956449182012-05-24T07:17:33.032-07:002012-05-24T07:17:33.032-07:00Thanks for your blogs. You make me think! I know t...Thanks for your blogs. You make me think! I know that my child rearing days are dwindling, but I'll never be too old to learn. Can I borrow the book?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-71713796619618052842012-05-23T19:32:54.581-07:002012-05-23T19:32:54.581-07:00I seriously love those quotes you posted so I just...I seriously love those quotes you posted so I just put a request in for it at the public library! Thank you for sharing!Vashtihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06766618924729269981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-85686490156421658102012-05-23T18:06:52.693-07:002012-05-23T18:06:52.693-07:00ha, i've had this on my "to-read' lis...ha, i've had this on my "to-read' list for awhile! now i MUST read it!jooleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10664909712252718945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3500371353366134644.post-17349037320548106722012-05-23T16:52:32.996-07:002012-05-23T16:52:32.996-07:00Hey there, I've been following a while, but do...Hey there, I've been following a while, but don't think that I've commented. I'm currently reading "Mean Moms Rule" which is fantastic, and seems to espouse a lot of the same theories. But this one is definitely on my list to read soon! <br /><br />I loved this post, and your one on kindergarten- that helped me, as my oldest is heading that way next year, too. <br /><br />Thanks for having a lovely blog!Rachael https://www.blogger.com/profile/04546209575452027732noreply@blogger.com