Thursday, May 9, 2013

draw me close.

drawing with ossi is magical. we draw pretty much the same thing every time.

basically, it goes like this...

1. we figure out how he is feeling
2. we pinpoint what he wants
3. i ask him what's keeping him from getting what he wants and he always says "YOU"
4. we decide that if we take me out of the picture he won't be able to have what he wants anyway because he needs me to get it for him
5. i tell him that i want him to have what he wants and ask if i can help him
6.  we identify the real obstacles
7. we make a plan together to break down the barrier
8. we remember we love each other
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there are many reasons that ossi and i need to have this conversation over and over. let me name a few...

1. he has an underdeveloped ability to recognize and express emotions
2. his overreaction to small frustrations causes him to forget the reason he's flipping out
3. he majorly externalizes blame and cannot understand that problems are more appropriately attributed to situations than to the people involved
4. he has grandiose thinking about his own abilities and this gives him the chance to humbly acknowledge that he needs other people
5. i need the reminder that i actually want him to succeed and that we're on the same team
6. we both need a chance to look at the situation logically and after a bit of calm drawing we're ready
7. we are both incredibly persistant, so as long as we correlate our efforts we're a force for awesomeness  {i'm serious. we have done some amazing things working side-by-side.}
8. when we start arguing we forget that we love each other

i absolutely, positively adore my son. and he drives me crazy.

the scriptures tell us, "be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." Matthew 5:48

ossi and i are perfecting one another, just as i'm sure our Heavenly Father intended.


Laura said...

You are such an inspired and awesome mom.

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